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Before Bypass – What I Wish I Had Known

October 31, 2016 Leave a Comment

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This coming month I shall be 7 years post-op and when I go along to support groups or just chat to other WLS patients generally they often ask what my experience has been like. I always give frank answers and ensure everyone is aware that it isn’t a walk in the park!

 

I am however aware that my journey has been a very good one to date and that many others experience things quite differently. Some have a difficult time due to surgical complications and many also realise that the food demons don’t go away with the flick of a surgeon’s knife.

 

It’s hard to sometimes find a ‘middle of the road’ story or approach which is why I was pleased to see the Guest Post feature below. I think this lady’s experience of gastric surgery and life thereafter is fairly typical (if there is such a thing). She answers candidly or makes observations on all the questions we might like to ask about what life is like as a post-bypass patient – I know that I recognise some of them.

 

In sharing with you these observations through experience maybe as a ‘newbie’ you might understand better what is in store and as a longer-term ‘oldie’ post-op you’re not alone in your experiences of surgery and by no means unique with your trials and tribulations …..

 

GUEST POST: You go to Pre-Op classes. You read, you research. People try to warn you about what it will really be like after you have gastric bypass surgery.

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But somehow, the things you hear may not quite crystallise in your mind until you experience them. With that in mind, Here is a list of things I personally wish I could have grasped beforehand, along with some of the things I’ve heard others say.

WHAT I WISH I HAD KNOWN

  • I wish I had realised that my life would still revolve around food – or at least, what I ingest. Instead of being able to forget all about eating, my day consists of counting fluid ounces, protein grams and supplements.
  • I wish I had known how difficult it would be to get all of the required fluids, proteins, and supplements in every day.
  • I wish I had realised that gastric bypass surgery – and the ensuing weight loss – will not make all my problems go away. That I would still face issues even though I weighed less.
  • I wish I had realised how this weight loss would change the relationships in my life – for better and for worse.
  • I wish I had understood how incredibly traumatic it is to follow the liquid diet immediately after surgery, to see others eat and how I would feel excluded from things like family dinners.
  • I wish I could have understood how it’s both liberating and frightening to be smaller.
  • I really wish I could have seen how the sagging skin and remaining fat would look, and how self-conscious it would make me continue to feel.
  • I wish someone could have gotten it through my head that I would still have to work at weight loss.
  • I wish I would have known that my weight loss would make others feel uncomfortable and self conscious about their own weight and therefore they’d want to lash out at me.
  • I wish I had realised that complications can happen to me and that those complications can be very unpleasant.
  • I wish I had known how my attitudes toward food would change, and how unpleasant it would become to watch others shovel too much food in.
  • I wish I had known how my attitudes toward overweight people would change, and how strange it would feel to not be “part of the club” around them.
  • I wish I had known how easy it is to become obsessed with how I look, and how I would have to watch myself to make sure all my conversations didn’t revolve around me, my weight loss or my wrinkled skin.
  • I wish I had known how invasive well-meaning people can be with their questions and how uncomfortable it would make me.
  • I wish I had known that after 6-9 months the old demons of cravings and head hunger would rear their ugly heads and that eating right would not be easy or automatic.
  • I wish I had known how horrible dumping really is, and how often it would happen to me after also having my gall bladder out.
  • I wish I had known how frustrating it would be when I suddenly had loads of energy but my family didn’t, and how depressing it would be that all they wanted to do was watch tv.
  • I wish I had known how sweet and understanding my husband would be and how difficult watching me lose weight while he didn’t would be for him. And I wish I had paid more attention to that during the first year, and thanked him more.
  • I wish I had known what a relief it would be to interact with strangers and not feel they were judging me for being fat.
  • Most of all, I wish I had realised that I’d still be “me” 100 pounds lighter.

None of the above would have been enough to change my mind. At least I don’t think so. I don’t regret my decision. But knowing them sure would have made the journey easier!

I hope it does that for you.

Feature courtesy of Health Cure

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